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Tuesday, December 22, 2009

Is it natural? ...Women vs. Women, Competitive Relationships

Is it natural? ...Women vs. Women, Competitive Relationships

I had a daydream the other day that I was at a party and everyone in the room had a secret agenda. You can imagine it as one of those single, professional athlete’s parties where all the women there were plotting to stomp those other bitches and land the millionaire of their dreams. But nowadays just about EVERY party and club scene is like this.

I despise women who are overly-competitive. But I have to ask myself, is there a part of them in me? Hmmm… Being completely honest, I never start a fight but I will finish it!

Women of today seem to be competitive by nature, but from what I’ve read of earlier clans, women release the hormone oxytocin (not oxycontin) which helps them to make friends and bond with other women so that they all can feel safe and be protected from lions, tigers, and bears. Apparently for these early women there was strength in numbers.

I don’t know... I guess today, I would have to ask a playboy playmate their view of the situation. They are the only ones I know who are around a bunch of women all the time who share the same man and do it peacefully.

I guess it makes sense that to ensure the survival of the species and the well-being of offspring in today’s society, a woman's best option is to have a mate.

I wish we could go back to the old, old, days where women had stronger communal relationships, took care of each other, loved each other, and helped each other care for their offspring. In these communities, women would be happier with themselves and each other, never at odds with one another over a member of the male species or the perceived threat of members of the same sex.

One can only dream...

In today's reality women are to other women, highly complex versions of lions, tigers, and bears.

Maybe we’re all wrong...


Links:

http://www.learningplaceonline.com/change/women/stress-friendship.htm

http://www.findem.com.au/resources/tendandbefriend.pdf

Article on "man sharing" --> http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m1077/is_6_56/ai_72502691/?tag=content%3Bcol1

Sunday, December 20, 2009

Discrimination...Part 1

Others feel that I should get a life and they’ve told me so. Their attitude is that there must be something missing in my life for me to have to focus on depressing things in the world. So I guess in their opinion, if I was truly happy, I’d
1. have something better to do…
and
2. wouldn’t care as much...
Even I believe there’s some truth to this...I would be distracted.

This saddens me because I wish that all people could have the life that I’ve had and know the love that I’ve known…but things always get so complicated. Complications cloud my mind…
You know, a lot of the times I think I have a gift to give to the world but I feel that the world justs want the "bottom line"…or they just want to forget, or make excuses.

There is always discrimination in some form or fashion. What I would like to see is a world where no one is discriminated against, no client, no employee. If I could create a utopian world, I would create a world where discrimination would END. Everyone would approach relationships from a therapeutic standpoint. At the age of 18, everyone would be trained in Crisis Prevention and Intervention (CPI) by the Crisis Prevention Institute. People would walk around knowing how to de-escalate escalating behaviors and resolve conflicts and would choose to do so.

A world where lawyers were not merely vultures picking over the remains of their latest carcass. A world where people could just “get along.” In this world, the EEOC would just exist as a precautionary measure, not because people are actually discriminated against!

One can only dream...