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Sunday, February 20, 2011

Movies To Watch With Your Fiance

Movies to watch when moving from a dating relationship to getting engaged! Watch each movie before getting engaged or in the beginning stages of your engagement.

I originally created this list back in November 2009 and emailed it to the guy I wanted to get engaged to... I told him he had to watch the entire list before we got married! He was psyched about the list, but we still didn't get engaged and we're not together today. :-( He wasn't ready to commit.

The guy I wanted to get engaged to was actually not an American citizen. He was born and raised in the city of Nairobi, which is the capital city of Kenya (a country in Eastern Africa). He moved to the United States in 2001, at the age of 20 (4yrs before I met him in 2005). So, this was my attempt at infusing a little more American culture and ideology into him.


Movies To Watch With Your Fiance

1. He’s Just Not That Into You – romantic comedy unlike other romantic comedies, about the world of dating and finding “the one.”

2. The Time Traveler’s Wife – romance/action film about an off/on relationship

3. Rachel Getting Married – drama about dysfunctional family preparing for oldest daughter’s wedding

4. Father of the Bride – lighthearted family comedy about a wedding

5. My Big Fat Greek Wedding – lighthearted comedy about a wedding between two people from different cultures

6. Kissing Jessica Stein – a romantic comedy about a straight woman who tries to have a long-term romantic relationship with a woman.

7. Miss Conception – comedy about a woman in a long-term relationship who tries to fufill her desperate need to have a child after she finds out that she only has 1 egg left

8. The Notebook – romance drama about a love that transcends boundaries/obstacles

9. Tyler Perry’s Daddy’s Little Girls – romantic comedy about a man learning how to become a father to his 3 children while falling in love with a woman who is learning how to allow herself to love a man

10. My Best Friend’s Girl – comedy about a woman and man discovering what they want out of romantic relationships

11. You’ve Got Mail – romantic comedy about two people at odds who unknowingly fall in love with each other over the internet

12. You, Me, and Dupree – comedy about a newlywed couple whose marriage suffers after an annoying friend moves in with them

http://www.flixster.com/movie-list/movies-to-watch-with-your-fiance

















  • He's Just Not That Into You











  • The Time Traveler's Wife











  • Rachel Getting Married











  • Father of the Bride











  • My Big Fat Greek Wedding











  • Kissing Jessica Stein











  • Miss Conception











  • The Notebook











  • Daddy's Little Girls











  • My Best Friend's Girl











  • You've Got Mail











  • You, Me and Dupree






Tuesday, February 15, 2011

The Definition of Shame

When I write, I like to throw all of myself into my writing. My first step before I write anything is to determine how I feel deep down inside about the subject matter. This ensures that the message comes from the heart or that it is at least worth the time it takes to write about.

Lately, I am faced with the realization that it is easier for me to write about some topics than others... Just thinking about it, I am scared. I'm not only scared of sharing, journaling, or writing about my thoughts and feelings, but I'm afraid of even really exploring the ideas any further in my own mind. "Uh-oh," I said to myself. You have found a weak spot. You have found territory that you’re afraid to roam...a space that you don’t want to enter. And frankly, I’m a little bit surprised by the extreme emotional reaction of feeling the need to gag myself. That’s not who I am, right? But still, I’m not ready… I'm faced with the inner struggle to be myself.

One thing I can say now, is how oppressed I really am. I’m thinking about making up a new Facebook quiz titled, “How oppressed are you?” No, not really. But seriously, I realize that having to hide and suppress yourself in everyday life can take its toll.

I guess I’m afraid of hearing that I'm wrong...not that my opinion is wrong, but that who I am is wrong. What I think is wrong. What I feel is wrong. Who I am is wrong. That is the definition of shame.

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/shame

noun \ˈshām\
Definition of SHAME
1
a: a painful emotion caused by consciousness of guilt, shortcoming, or impropriety b: the susceptibility to such emotion
2
: a condition of humiliating disgrace or disrepute : ignominy
3
a : something that brings censure or reproach; also : something to be regretted : pity b : a cause of feeling shame

Thursday, February 3, 2011


What is Love?



A poem by Myra Williams



Love is like a competition

a race to the finish line.

Who's right, who's wrong,

who's powerful, who's smarter,

who is more desirable?



Love is also like a dance,

two ppl learning

to step in tune

with each other

at a perfect distance,

following a familiar pattern.



Love is a game

only the players understand.



Love is not martyrdom.

No one can compete with Jesus!

Although, Mother Teresa's love

was almost Christ-like because,

she gave service to others

as a way of life.



1 Cor. 13:8 says, "Love never fails."

This is true.

True love never fails.

But romance and friendships,

relationships, often do.



How should I love someone

when it's best

for both of us

to be apart?

Though no longer in love,

that person still has my heart.



I can have love for someone

forever,

but the type of love

that never fails

is self preservation.

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

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Tuesday, February 1, 2011

My Natural Haircare Regimen





Natural Haircare Regimen - Clean and Condition


So, I decided to go natural...

I don't plan on washing my naturally nappy hair but once every 2wks... But when I do, this is the regimen that I will follow. The products listed are ones that I already had around the house.




1. Scalp Treatment (20 mins)

Product: Head & Shoulders (pyrithione zinc) is anti-fungal and anti-bacterial, yet drying to hair.



Do this step before shampooing (your scalp should be dry). Pour shampoo onto a paper plate. Part hair and apply shampoo directly to the scalp and hair roots (similar to the way you apply a relaxer). Massage shampoo into scalp with fingertips.



2. Sanitize kitchen sink and countertop.

Products: Household Cleaner w/bleach; liquid anti-bacterial soap



Spray cleaner. Let sit 5 min. Add few drops of liquid soap. Wipe with wet towel then rinse well.







3. Shampoo hair. (15min)

Products: Head & Shoulders Shampoo, Nexxus Therappe Shampoo (great for relaxed hair), Optimum Oil Therapy Ultimate Recovery Shampoo (great for natural kinky hair)



a. Rinse hair under faucet then fill sink with water and soak hair, gently massaging scalp underwater.

b. 1st lather: Apply palm-sized amount of Nexxus shampoo to hair. Massage hair into scalp with palms and fingers. Rinse and soak.

c. 2nd lather: Apply palm-sized amount of Optimum Oil Therapy shampoo to hair. Lather well by massaging scalp for 3mins, squeezing out the excess suds.

d. Let shampoo sit 5mins. Add a little more Head & Shoulders shampoo.

e. Rinse and soak until all shampoo is removed. Pat dry with towel.



4. Sanitize combs and brushes you’ve been using.

Fill sink with hot soapy water and shampoo. Allow combs and brushes to soak at least 5mins or until you’re ready to use the sink again.




5. Deep Condition (1hr)

Products: Optimum Oil Therapy Ultimate Recovery Conditioner; Keracare Essential Oils; shower cap



a. Apply conditioner to hair one section at a time (may be as many as 20 sections). You can use clips, rubber bands, or just wing it with your fingers.

b. Add nickel-sized amount of essential oil to your palm. Rub your hands together then apply to your hair (4-6 sections).

c. Using your wide tooth comb, partially detangle hair (20+ sections). Start at the root and gently pull through about half-way. Do this all over your head. Repeat process again starting at the ends and working your way back up to the root (your hair will be softer this time). Note: You’re not trying to get it straight. You just want to break up large knots and spread the conditioner.

d. Apply nickel sized amount of oil to palm, rub hands together, and apply to hair.

e. Place shower cap on. Sit under dryer for 10-15mins (on Hi setting, I only do 10min). Allow your head to cool off at least 15 mins before you remove the shower cap.

f. Rinse and soak with warm water. While still standing over the sink, add a palm sized amount of the Optimum Oil Therapy conditioner to your wet hair, then rinse and soak again until ALL conditioner has been removed from your hair and scalp.

g.Partially towel dry.



6. Detangle

Products: IC Leave-In Conditioner; Keracare Essential Oils

Apply generous amount of leave-in conditioner to hair. Using wide tooth comb, gently detangle small sections of hair. Add nickle-sized amount to 4 sections hair.








My Two-Strand Twist Outs


Stage 1 - Twists

Products: Blue Magic Coconut Oil Conditioner, Smooth N Shine Curling Mousse, Jamaican Mango & Lime BTR(braid, twist, remover) by Rasta Locks & Twists, wide tooth comb, detangling brush






Pour Mousse and BTR onto paper plate (they will eventually run together).



a. Part hair into 1 inch square.

b. With 2 fingers, apply small amount of Blue Magic to section.

c. Then wet fingers in Mousse/BTR and apply to section.

d. Separate section into two parts at the root then begin tightly twisting the two strands around each other.

e. Continue twisting all the wat to the tips. Make sure all the hair is wet with the mousse/btr (twist and grab/pull)




Repeat this until all of your hair is twisted.


Stage 2 - Unraveled twists

Apply thin layer of Blue Magic to your fingers. Gently rub along twist. Then grab twist at the root and slowly pull twist apart.



Style n go!



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