Finding A Husband: A Woman's Reputation

If I had to think about all the things life/society has taught me about finding a husband I would have to divide it into two categories, traditional and current. Traditional would be what my mother and grandmothers’ generation was taught:



5 traditional sayings for women looking to find a husband:

1. “Why would he buy the cow when he can get the milk for free?"

2. “Keep your legs closed!”

3. “Always be a lady.”

4. “Respect yourself.”

5. “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.”





Well in today’s society, still within the 3rd sexual revolution of the 20th century, all of that has gone straight to hell! Men are still getting used to women having more freedom and power in the workplace as well as the home…yet how we as women view ourselves, sexually, has changed a lot!





10 ways to find a husband in 2011:



The most recurring theme “A good woman knows her place and reverberates with all of her being that men are God.”


1. “Know your place!”
2. Dress and act more provocatively.
3. Get a reputation for yourself as easy, appeasing, “down for anything.”
4. Never be outspoken if it makes a man feel uncomfortable.
5. Let him cheat on you. Just ignore it and forgive him.
6. Act like you have no self-esteem so that you appear to be more needy.
7. Cheat on him at least once.
8. Remain open in the bedroom. After all, “What he can’t get at home, he will find elsewhere.”
9. Say yes when you really mean “No!”
10. Don’t be fake when you call yourself a “bad b**ch” because you will have to prove it!


I think we need to take a look at the messages young girls of today receive about love and marriage. Twenty years ago, you might hear someone say, “It is better to be a lady in the streets but a freak in the bed.” Today it seems that it is more attractive to be the "bad" girl publicly versus behind closed doors. Both women and men today raise the “bad b***h" up on a pedestal. Many of today’s men claim to want the "baddest b***h" sitting on their lap.



It would seem to be that today, of the married couples I know in their 30s and under, men flock to women who they know will cheat on them. The reason for this I’m not completely sure of, but maybe he feels success in taming her animalistic nature, or at least trying to. Or maybe it is that he has decided to keep the baddest b***h around for life, while he entertains himself elsewhere as well.



So my final question is this: Do I need to make a sex tape to find a husband in today’s society in order to make myself more wifey-like? If I just follow the traditional sayings, what type of husband can I expect to attract, if any?”